It was a cold and somber night when a 23 year-old girl stepped out with her friend to watch a movie never to return back home. Little did she know, that wintry night would be her last.
Yes, you all would have guessed by now the horrific gang rape of 16th December, 2012 that shook the entire country and raised questions on the thought process of the men of our country.
It was widely discriminated both in India as well as abroad further tarnishing our image as a country. A country is more known by its people than geographical boundaries, culture or heritage.
More shocking was when rapists were successful in twisting the arms of law by postponing the hanging dates not once but twice. This is the justice received to the family of the victim after fighting 7 long years .
Candle marches, nation wide protests, onscreen as well as off-screen debates lead to nothing. The rarest of rare case saw no amendments in juvenile crime law who not only raped but did something so heinous that I dread to think or read or imagine even.
We all had slept over this case till recently it surfaced once again before us through media. Probably only one woman who was the mother of Nirbhaya, could not give her fight, as mothers never give up on their child.
I too woke up when I saw the heart-wrenching video of Nirbhaya’s mother on the scheduled hanging day.
Her tears have dried up over the years of struggle and fight for justice but she stood there as rock to fight till her last breath. Her daughter who should have been dead that night itself fought for almost fortnight because she had the quest for life maybe not for herself but for her parents. For no fault of hers, she was lying on a death bed in a vegetative state, the only fault of hers was she resisted the assault and fought every minute without any fear of being beaten ruthlessly or even killed.
That’s what we woman are built off. We know how to rise like Phoenix from the ashes. Nature has embedded the “Never to give-up attitude” deep within us.
We are not safe in our homes nor in our own country. Everybody speaks about the incidents, abuses, domestic violence but no one talks about
“How to bring change”?
The only constant that can set the societal parameters in right order.
What can we do to change the mindset?? Nirbhaya incident should have been the last gang rape probably recorded but to utter dismay more cases surfaced from various parts of the country in recent past. Women of influential and highly-educated background were also not being spared.
Nirbhaya incident and many more horrific incidents have transformed me from a carefree girl to a worried mother.
Today I am the woman who fears for her daughter in school and whenever she steps out.
Today, I am that woman who fears to step out late in the night.
Today I am also that woman who reads daily about atrocities on woman.
I am also the woman who have to teach her 3 year-old twins, what’s good and bad touch all about.
Today I am an anxious mother if school bus is late even by a minute.
Today, I am a suspicious aunt who assures her daughter is safe even when she is playing with her cousin brother.
Today, have I become a mother who worries more than usual? Probably, YES.
Or is it the incidents around me taking a toll.
Today I am that woman who desperately wants the CHANGE.
To break-free from the shackles of fear.
But who will bell the cat to bring the CHANGE?
Should I wait for any man to come in shining Armour to slay all my fear??
Or be that Woman to bring change??
Here I join the hands with the mothers of the fearless to take a pledge to bring that Change.
We were enough crushed and trampled , not only our dreams but are identities too.
Time has come for the change.
We, take the Onus of bringing Change by raising our Sons and daughters ,
EQUAL and RIGHT.
Womanhood can only be celebrated in true spirits and meaning only when we don’t give up our fight. Don’t accept to be crushed and rise like a Phoenix from the ashes.
Hope 3rd March,2020 brings a new Dawn in the chapter of Justice and finally Nirbhaya gets it.
May Justice prevail…….