We think we are happy if we have a swanky lifestyle to live for, a blooming relationship or a prospering career. But, are we really happy even after getting all this in life?
For me, true happiness comes from within and it’s our actions that decides that.
You are the creator and destroyer for your happiness. The materialistic world can offer you happiness only for a temporary period but can’t offer you peace and contentment in life. The story of an Indian couple actually taught me that true happiness is always about being selfless.
This story not only moved me but gave me a different perspective on happiness. It’s a true incident and today this Indian couple is the parent of more than 40 children. Here’s the story of Karibeeran and Choodamani who are the founders of “Hope” orphanage that has not only provided these children with basic amenities but also with good education. Here’s the heart- wrenching story of Karibeeran and Choodamani.
December 26, the day that brought havoc and untold grief to an Indian couple who lost everything to Asian Tsunami of 2004 . Thousands of lives were affected when magnanimous waves had hit the shores of Southern Eastern India, mainly Chennai and its neighbouring districts.
The couple along with their three children were in celebratory mood, Choodamani was busy cooking for the family a birthday meal while Karibeeran took the rest of the family to the beach. Kids nearby were playing volleyball and cricket . He along with his son were playing frisbee.
The very next moment twenty-five feet tall wave came and washed away many precious lives along with it. This is the tragic tale of Karibeeran Paramesvaram and Choodamani who lost their three kids and several other family members in a wink of an eye.
Karibeeran’s birthday celebration turned into a nightmare for lifetime who even thought of ending his life along with his wife as it had become meaningless. The next day Karibeeran went out in search of the bodies of their three children and other family members. He found all the bodies one by one . Apart from his family member’s bodies, they also had taken care of unidentified bodies at their home as they knew many were searching for their loved ones.
Couple of days later, this couple thought of visiting a village in neighbouring Nagappattinam to check how it had fared.They had been donating money to fund the education of kids in that village for a while.
What they witnessed was heart-wrenching. Several children were orphaned in that tsunami leaving them in helpless condition on road with no food or shelter. The plight of children made Choodamani take the bold step of adopting orphaned children. That day itself they brought three kids to their home.
A new chapter began in their lives , it was also the day the seed that grew into Nambikkai was sowed. Nambikkai in Tamil means “Hope”, rendering meaning and purpose to the lives of several orphaned children .
Happiness is selfless and it’s about giving to others rather receiving.
And I learnt this wisdom of life from this inspiring couple who knew the art of turning their paramount grief into happiness not only for themselves but for everyone around them.
I virtually met this couplel six years back in a TV show Kaun Banega Crorepati. They were invited for a charity donation for their orphanage. On hearing their story, I was so moved that till date I remember Kalibeeran’s narration of that fateful day . How he found the bodies, how they tried attempting to take their lives and how did they overcome, all of it.
After that whenever I faced grief in life, I remembered them that in spite of losing everything to nature. They are still spreading happiness for so many and are also staying happy for themselves.
Happiness not only comes from within but it also lies when you have a purpose in life. The purpose could be your family, your kids, your society anything that uplift others.
We, human beings look for happiness in whatever we do. It’s different for different people. Some try finding it in materialstic world, some in spiritual realm and some like Karibeeran in living for others.
This story always teaches me three important life lessons.
- Happiness can only enter your lives when you “LET GO ” . Let go your negative thoughts, negative life experience or negative events of your life.
- Happiness comes when you have a purpose in life that uplift others.
- Seek happiness from within and not from outer materialistic world.
Sorce of the story :